Appreciation Mindfulness

Enjoying the relaxed day without work

A friend, a passionate learning facilitator gets excited about the next assignment and would go an extra mile to make sure that she is up the curve and is able to sustain the passion to a high degree. Her benchmark is high and so is her expectations from herself. With the stretch, the stress takes over and the day she ends up doing nothing is the day full of agony and frustration. This is a natural feeling for a person who is totally engaged with the work. On the other hand, I have another friend who has hardly taken any vacation and when he did take few solitary vacations, he was restless and wanted the first opportunity he could, to go back to work

Such type of people don’t like an “unfulfilled day”. For many people in the contemporary world, rest is not a wonderful virtue. In fact people complain that when they rested and relaxed more, they felt bad that they could not focus on work, or on reading a new book or watching a movie. They are not wrong on their priorities but because of their conditioning they believe this way.

As a Well-being Coach, I ask my clients to maintain a reflection diary on hours spent on well-being (sleep, meditation, rest, mindful breaks, positive nutrition, jogging/running etc) and many a times they take a long while to write such reflections because it is surely challenging to have a well-being as a focus area.

So, what shall be ideally done? Can we feel grateful for a day where we just rested and didn’t really accomplish anything? If we felt that there was no way the day could be enjoyed, can we tell ourselves that whenever such occasion happens next time around, we could make it enjoyable, by meditating, by sipping the tea in the balcony which is seldom used, by wiping the dust of the book shelf, by talking to few friends, by being away from gadgets and technology and so on. A kind of a “minimalist” day but indeed a day of major accomplishments, of feeling good about ourselves!

Appreciation Graitude Mindfulness

Can we create an Oxycontin pandemic by appreciating people?

By Sandeep Kulshrestha

We are in August 2017 and the world seems to be a busier place with people spending most of the time at work. Not all work on a five day week work structure and there are Asian counties including Korea, India, Philippines etc where people work longer hours than their counterparts in Europe/Americas. So, what do we do to bring cheer to people who are working hard and doing the best they can? The answer is simple, praise them! When we praise people, the hormone Oxycontin, also known as a “feel good” hormone gets activated and it helps all of us in our communications with people and reduces stress.

It should also be noted that the stress causing hormones take more time to come out of our system and oxytocin levels deplete rapidly and they need constant refill. Judith E Glazer and Richard E Glazer mention this in the article The Neurochemistry of Positive Conversations that when we face criticism, rejection etc, our body produces higher levels of cortisol, the hormone that effects rational thinking and induces stress. A simple praise, a pat on the back and showing that you care uplifts the levels of feel good factor

Hence, through this post, I encourage all the readers to choose three adjectives for an individual who is close. He/She can be from your workplace, your friend, a spouse or a partner. For example, you have a colleague who is friendly and kind hearted. You can use the adjectives like #kindhearted #spirited #warm for that person. You may do it on her social media profile or write a handwritten note to show your appreciation and gratitude. Let it begin and create a pandemic of spreading happiness!

You can find some examples of great adjectives at this link

So, what are you waiting for?

Sandeep Kulshrestha works with Individuals and groups as a coach/facilitator and helps them unleash their best and ideal selves. He can be connected on twitter or through his website

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